Merry Christmas! Happy Holidays! Family, Food, and Fun!

Merry Christmas, everyone! Happy Holidays!

This is definitely our favorite time of the year. For so many reasons. Some of them include:

  1. It's Lindsay's birthday! This one is extra special, as she's celebrating 30 glorious years. 
  2. Holiday time brings out such wonderful joy, happiness, and togetherness from everyone! This year, Lindsay and I started with a belated Hanukkah and Mom Smith birthday celebration in Pennsylvania with Dad Smith and Sister Smith too, moved to a New Jersey weekend with Dad & Stepmom Wolf, and are currently in a cabin in the Catskills celebrating Christmas with Mom Wolf, Sister Wolf, Brother Wolf, and Grandma! Presents, fires in the fireplace, snow, X-Mas PJs, and more. We'll be finishing off with NYC for New Year's.
  3. FOOD! Lots and lots of it. From a Tofurkey feast to breakfast scrambles to some tasty treats - we make sure to get the whole family involved, in the cooking and with their appetites.
  4. A time to reflect. There's only one more week left in 2013! What an amazing year it's been. Keep an eye out for a special 2013 Reasons to Smile Wrap-Up. We'll be getting nostalgic, talking about special moments and accomplishments, in addition to thinking big for the new year 2014.
  5. Pictures! Enjoy some of what we already have for you below.

What are YOU doing for your 2013 Holiday Celebration? Comment below!

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Catskills cabin decorations

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Playing one of our new favorite games,
Escape: The Curse of the Temple

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Kiffles! A Christmas staple and a delicious treat from Mom Wolf.
They're Hungarian!

kiss me i'm vegan tempeh scramble
A "Welcome Home!" tempeh scramble from Mom Smith. I followed up with a Daiya Cheese-y breakfast scramble 5 days later!

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Trying out Mock Chopped Liver for the first time. Mom Smith used a recipe from No Cholesterol Passover Recipes by Debra Wasserman and Charles Stahler

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A Chinese food feast from New Harmony in Philadelphia

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Vegan Meatballs a-cookin!

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Nothing like a warm fire on a chilly day. Stockings accompany.

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Presents from Santa! It's Christmas!

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Your most kissable bloggers enjoying the holidays and expressing
our never-ending gratitude for your love and support


Have a happy compassionate holiday season and enjoy this final week of the year!


Friends Don't Let Friends French Kiss in Public

Ok everyone - as someone who writes A LOT about relationships, dating, and sexuality issues, I like to think of myself as pretty laid back and liberal about most things that revolve around these topics. Not much makes me uptight, and even less tends to turn me off. But I've got a bit of a confession to make...one that if I had to guess, I would imagine that most of you agree with as well! There is nothing worse than seeing a couple playing tongue tennis is a public place! I don't care how much you love each other, how much time you've spent apart, or even how good looking of a pair you are. Get a room, go home, go away, just do something other than engaging in a French kissing demonstration in the public square - we DON'T want to see it!
Of course there is nothing wrong with a public display of affection. Just remember, a big part of kissing well is a sense of class and style in your approach. Elegance is VERY erotic. Low key lust is luscious too. But everyone knows that couple who just attacks each other after they've had a few drinks at dinner, and when you're dining in a large group, trust me, it's no fun to watch! ( Especially when it's your younger brother and his girlfriend, yuck!)
So don't stop kissing...It's the sexiest and most erotic part of being passionate. Just keep the real fun stuff at home, or in private anyway, wherever you are. The rest of us will find you far sexier as well, I guarantee it!

Tips to Give Your Partner the Perfect Kiss

One of the biggest complaints from women is that there is not enough kissing. Another complaint is of the lack of good technique.
French kissing is a lot more intimate than a friendship kiss or a peck. This is because the tongue is involved. However, what makes a good and sensual French kiss?
Here are some basic rules:
Make sure that your breath is fresh. Bad breath and smoker's breath are extremely off putting.
Move slowly. Rushed movements will only scare your partner away.
Take your time when kissing your partner. Spend enough time on the kissing, as it is the best way to create the mood for more things to come.
Do not shove your tongue in your partner's mouth. Some people do not like it. Let your tongue slowly move around your partners lips before nudging in the mouth. Once in the mouth, the tongue should move slowly and in rhythm with your bodies.
Be careful not to let too much liquids pass between mouths.
Use your hands to caress areas of your partner's body. Start with gentle movements. Your partner will let you know when the intensity should increase. This usually occurs automatically between both partners.
By perfecting the art of kissing, your partner will be left thinking about that moment over and over again, and will be dying to come back for more. However, doing it wrong could spell chaos for future exploration into the world of bliss between you and your dream partner.

6 Amazing Ways

Learning how to French kiss properly is well worth it. If you're labelled a "kissing dud" you're pretty much a dating disaster till you get it right.
It's easy to learn if you follow these simple step by step instructions that will have the person you're kissing thinking that you're the best kisser they've ever had.
First, there are some fundamentals to being a great kisser. These include being willing to experiment, having imagination, being kind and patient, preparing for it, respecting the person you're with, being able to communicate and, very important, having good self-confidence.
Second, it's important that your personal hygiene is up to scratch. That means you don't have bad breath (ask friends if you have to), you don't have a rough beard and you don't have body odour (again ask friends if you have to).
Third, you need to be able to hold your breath for a period of time. Unfortunately if you don't breathe you will become light headed and your mo
uth will create too much saliva and that is a no-no. Simply take a deep breath at the start and allow your ribs to expand. Take a deep breath slowly and this will allow you to have some kept for reserve.
Four, make sure your body is in a comfortable position to ensure flexibility and that you can move your body without having to stop the kiss. Make sure your partner is comfortable also.
Five, tilt your head to the right when you come in to kiss so that your noses don't crash with one another.
Six, when you kiss for the first time try to make it so that their top lip goes between your two lips. If you're a guy look her straight in the eye when you come in to kiss and tilt her chin up towards you slightly. Kiss her again like this and then tilt your head and then slowly and gently move your tongue into their mouth. After you feel their tongue touch yours just let them touch slowly. Keep continuing with that until your tongue movements speed up. Whatever you don't, don't stick your tongue down their throats or make them want to gag. Ease into the French kiss and take things slowly as much as possible.

The 4th annual terrific thanksgiving turkey pledge!

At Farm Sanctuary's Animal Acres, 2013.
Hello friends!

Thanksgiving is just around the corner and with that, the hustle and bustle of finding just the right food to display on the table for everyone to munch on. Stuffing! Mashed Potatoes! Cranberry sauce out of a can! Hey, you can take the girl out of New Jersey, but you can't take the New Jersey out of the girl...



This Thanksgiving, Steve and I will be eating plenty of yummy homemade food with tons of veggie friends at a very fun vegan pot luck here in LA, and I couldn't be happier. 

This year, I am challenging you - YES YOU! - to 

Kiss Me, I'm Vegan's



4th ANNUAL TERRIFIC THANKSGIVING 

TURKEY PLEDGE!!!

We've done this fun tradition since 2010 with fabulous success - reaching between 60-95 pledges on the blog each year. However, 2013 is special. This is the year that you - YES YOU! - help us get OVER 100 PLEDGES of compassion for a cruelty-free Thanksgiving.

Here's how it goes:

In the comment section below, 


please make a firm commitment NOT 



to eat turkeys this Thanksgiving.  

You can say something as simple as "No turkey for me!" or as long as "I would never dream of consuming turkeys because they're too cute to eat, pass the tofurky please!" 

I know we can get an all-time high for the turkeys this year! And don't worry - you can be a vegan, vegetarian, or meat-eater-slowly-transitioning-to-kissworthy-vegan and still post a comment below. 

AND PLEASE SHARE THIS WITH JUST ABOUT ANY FRIEND YOU CAN GET YOUR HANDS ON!

Here’s to a delicious, compassionate 
holiday season.

For vegan Thanksgiving recipe ideas, check out 2010's holiday post, Forks Over Knives' holiday menus #1 & #2, and if you haven't yet, give a Tofurky roast a whirl. I was skeptical at first, but oh my goodness are they amazing!

The Ghosts In Our Machine: Through the Lens & Straight to Our Hearts

The Ghosts in Our Machine
Image from www.theghostsinourmachine.com
We live in a world where YouTube dog videos can peak above one million views, becoming a must-watch and share for those who consider themselves animal lovers. The same extends to sharing funny cat pictures. Even a Norwegian comedy duo can create a music video inquiring "What Does The Fox Say?" and get viral appeal from the masses. We gravitate toward the fun, funny, light, and positive - which is completely legitimate. However, in doing so, we often directly ignore another world of animals - a world that's very present, a world that's very real, a world that's unfortunate and sad and needs our attention just as much as the lovable world of "I Can Haz Cheezburger?" photos. This world, the expansive, global world involving animal captivity & cruelty, is potently shared with us in the powerful, beautiful, haunting documentary, The Ghosts in Our Machine.

Following on the heels of the widely-released Blackfish and the limited-released Speciesism: The Movie, Ghosts is entering our theaters and our hearts and minds at exactly the right moment - at a time where human awareness, global responsibility, and our connection to compassion are coming into focus. With masterful & sharp cinematic precision, director Liz Marshall continues the necessary march into greater consciousness by documenting and educating us about what is and what can be.

We're immediately immersed into our own journey with video and photos of the eyes of animals. From the start, we're invited to delve into the eyes of animals through our own eyes and begin an adventure of bearing witness. We see beings that are inherently different from us in some ways - with fur, scales, hooves, snouts - yet connect to us in the most important way regarding our existence on Earth: we see, we breathe, we live. And, with the support of groundbreaking research (plus knowing our own personal relationships with companion animals), we feel.

We Animals
Image from Jo-Anne McArthur/We Animals
The film is guided by our protagonist, acclaimed photographer Jo-Anne McArthur (We Animals), creating a seamless blend of narrative and documentary as she travels from location to location, capturing the realities of animals living "in the machine" of today's world (fur farms, factory farms, breeding farms, laboratories, entertainment corporations, etc.). She reveals the stark truth about our falsely mainstream lovable relationship with animals through her photos of individual animals that represent the billions who are held in captivity and commodified for their fur/skin (for clothing), their flesh/secretions (for food), and their physical presence/bodies/abilities (for entertainment & experimentation).

Through the mixed medium of photography and film, we walk alongside Jo-Anne on the adventure, directly confronting the emotion that can be captured in a still image. We, whether we ever have truly made the connection, see loneliness, despair, fear, terror, depression in the eyes and bodies of these animals trapped in cages & crates, strapped to carts - reminiscent of photos from WWII concentration camps.

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Image from Jo-Anne McArthur/We Animals
To balance out the sad truth we witness, we're also taken to a wonderful place of joy, of hope, of play and freedom and love, continuing to bear witness - only, this time, through the eyes of liberated animals living out their lives at an animal sanctuary. This juxtaposition - from confinement to open pastures, from injured & malnourished to clean, well-fed, and frolicking - provides a cogent testimony of why this world is a better place when we act from unconditional love and care, regardless of species.

We are forced to reexamine the words "compassion" and "sentience," defining whether they apply only to human animals or non-human animals too. Our reexamination also involves the word "dominion," and we must determine if we have strayed from "hold dominion over (as a shepherd, a guide, a watcher)" and moved into "to dominate." Ultimately, I don't think the question starts with "if," rather "how much" - and the still & moving portraits of the monkeys, beagles, pigs, foxes, cows, dolphins in the film show just how much we've let our fellow earthlings down.

Underscored perfectly by music (including one of the most beautiful Radiohead songs to close out the film) and valuable voiceover to match the visual environment, Ghosts is a complete film that brings us an incomplete answer, left up to us to further explore and act upon. Through the questions that arise during the film, though, we can only discover that our answer - to "What will we do with this information/presentation moving forward?" - will spring from our own embodiment of compassion and how strong it is (or if it even exists at all).

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Image from www.theghostsinourmachine.com
I'm left with chills, which I already experienced throughout watching, as I wipe the tears from my eyes. We are at a precipice in human existence, a crossroads where we must realize that human rights and animals rights are in partnership with one another - and to ignore or abolish one is to negatively impact the other. As we are exposed to the work and education of heroic journeymen & journeywomen like Jo-Anne McArthur and Liz Marshall, we must know that we have the choice: to contribute to and support the problem or be part of the solution. Like an actively moving museum and story all bundled into one, The Ghosts in Our Machine is an essential experience for everyone, an opportunity to connect or reconnect with our inherent compassion and help save the world.

This film is not just for us. This is for those who cannot speak on their own behalf (beyond the squeals and screams, the howls and bellows). This is for those who are trapped within a tragic, unnatural system (beyond the liberations and occasional escapes and runs to freedom). This is for those whose lives are taken without a second thought, for selfish gain (beyond the few who have a safe, warm home and sit by our side).
for the ghosts
This is For The Ghosts.
__________

"I truly believe that it's innate that we're all compassionate and that if we're given the opportunity to care, we will." ~ Jo-Anne McArthur
__________


The Ghosts in Our Machine is currently running its U.S. Oscar Qualifying Campaign after releasing in Canada. You can see the film this month and in December in New York City (through Nov. 21st), Los Angeles (Nov. 15th-21st), 
San Francisco, Chicago, and Columbus (further cities TBD). For screening dates/times, ticket information, and more about the film, please visit


NOTE: There is nothing graphic about this film, specifically in what is deemed graphic (blood, death, etc.). What could be considered graphic in another way is the sheer neglect, disconnection, and abuse that's present within all animal industries, obviously expressed through the featured animals.