6 Amazing Ways

Learning how to French kiss properly is well worth it. If you're labelled a "kissing dud" you're pretty much a dating disaster till you get it right.
It's easy to learn if you follow these simple step by step instructions that will have the person you're kissing thinking that you're the best kisser they've ever had.
First, there are some fundamentals to being a great kisser. These include being willing to experiment, having imagination, being kind and patient, preparing for it, respecting the person you're with, being able to communicate and, very important, having good self-confidence.
Second, it's important that your personal hygiene is up to scratch. That means you don't have bad breath (ask friends if you have to), you don't have a rough beard and you don't have body odour (again ask friends if you have to).
Third, you need to be able to hold your breath for a period of time. Unfortunately if you don't breathe you will become light headed and your mo
uth will create too much saliva and that is a no-no. Simply take a deep breath at the start and allow your ribs to expand. Take a deep breath slowly and this will allow you to have some kept for reserve.
Four, make sure your body is in a comfortable position to ensure flexibility and that you can move your body without having to stop the kiss. Make sure your partner is comfortable also.
Five, tilt your head to the right when you come in to kiss so that your noses don't crash with one another.
Six, when you kiss for the first time try to make it so that their top lip goes between your two lips. If you're a guy look her straight in the eye when you come in to kiss and tilt her chin up towards you slightly. Kiss her again like this and then tilt your head and then slowly and gently move your tongue into their mouth. After you feel their tongue touch yours just let them touch slowly. Keep continuing with that until your tongue movements speed up. Whatever you don't, don't stick your tongue down their throats or make them want to gag. Ease into the French kiss and take things slowly as much as possible.

The 4th annual terrific thanksgiving turkey pledge!

At Farm Sanctuary's Animal Acres, 2013.
Hello friends!

Thanksgiving is just around the corner and with that, the hustle and bustle of finding just the right food to display on the table for everyone to munch on. Stuffing! Mashed Potatoes! Cranberry sauce out of a can! Hey, you can take the girl out of New Jersey, but you can't take the New Jersey out of the girl...



This Thanksgiving, Steve and I will be eating plenty of yummy homemade food with tons of veggie friends at a very fun vegan pot luck here in LA, and I couldn't be happier. 

This year, I am challenging you - YES YOU! - to 

Kiss Me, I'm Vegan's



4th ANNUAL TERRIFIC THANKSGIVING 

TURKEY PLEDGE!!!

We've done this fun tradition since 2010 with fabulous success - reaching between 60-95 pledges on the blog each year. However, 2013 is special. This is the year that you - YES YOU! - help us get OVER 100 PLEDGES of compassion for a cruelty-free Thanksgiving.

Here's how it goes:

In the comment section below, 


please make a firm commitment NOT 



to eat turkeys this Thanksgiving.  

You can say something as simple as "No turkey for me!" or as long as "I would never dream of consuming turkeys because they're too cute to eat, pass the tofurky please!" 

I know we can get an all-time high for the turkeys this year! And don't worry - you can be a vegan, vegetarian, or meat-eater-slowly-transitioning-to-kissworthy-vegan and still post a comment below. 

AND PLEASE SHARE THIS WITH JUST ABOUT ANY FRIEND YOU CAN GET YOUR HANDS ON!

Here’s to a delicious, compassionate 
holiday season.

For vegan Thanksgiving recipe ideas, check out 2010's holiday post, Forks Over Knives' holiday menus #1 & #2, and if you haven't yet, give a Tofurky roast a whirl. I was skeptical at first, but oh my goodness are they amazing!

The Ghosts In Our Machine: Through the Lens & Straight to Our Hearts

The Ghosts in Our Machine
Image from www.theghostsinourmachine.com
We live in a world where YouTube dog videos can peak above one million views, becoming a must-watch and share for those who consider themselves animal lovers. The same extends to sharing funny cat pictures. Even a Norwegian comedy duo can create a music video inquiring "What Does The Fox Say?" and get viral appeal from the masses. We gravitate toward the fun, funny, light, and positive - which is completely legitimate. However, in doing so, we often directly ignore another world of animals - a world that's very present, a world that's very real, a world that's unfortunate and sad and needs our attention just as much as the lovable world of "I Can Haz Cheezburger?" photos. This world, the expansive, global world involving animal captivity & cruelty, is potently shared with us in the powerful, beautiful, haunting documentary, The Ghosts in Our Machine.

Following on the heels of the widely-released Blackfish and the limited-released Speciesism: The Movie, Ghosts is entering our theaters and our hearts and minds at exactly the right moment - at a time where human awareness, global responsibility, and our connection to compassion are coming into focus. With masterful & sharp cinematic precision, director Liz Marshall continues the necessary march into greater consciousness by documenting and educating us about what is and what can be.

We're immediately immersed into our own journey with video and photos of the eyes of animals. From the start, we're invited to delve into the eyes of animals through our own eyes and begin an adventure of bearing witness. We see beings that are inherently different from us in some ways - with fur, scales, hooves, snouts - yet connect to us in the most important way regarding our existence on Earth: we see, we breathe, we live. And, with the support of groundbreaking research (plus knowing our own personal relationships with companion animals), we feel.

We Animals
Image from Jo-Anne McArthur/We Animals
The film is guided by our protagonist, acclaimed photographer Jo-Anne McArthur (We Animals), creating a seamless blend of narrative and documentary as she travels from location to location, capturing the realities of animals living "in the machine" of today's world (fur farms, factory farms, breeding farms, laboratories, entertainment corporations, etc.). She reveals the stark truth about our falsely mainstream lovable relationship with animals through her photos of individual animals that represent the billions who are held in captivity and commodified for their fur/skin (for clothing), their flesh/secretions (for food), and their physical presence/bodies/abilities (for entertainment & experimentation).

Through the mixed medium of photography and film, we walk alongside Jo-Anne on the adventure, directly confronting the emotion that can be captured in a still image. We, whether we ever have truly made the connection, see loneliness, despair, fear, terror, depression in the eyes and bodies of these animals trapped in cages & crates, strapped to carts - reminiscent of photos from WWII concentration camps.

captivity mink farming
Image from Jo-Anne McArthur/We Animals
To balance out the sad truth we witness, we're also taken to a wonderful place of joy, of hope, of play and freedom and love, continuing to bear witness - only, this time, through the eyes of liberated animals living out their lives at an animal sanctuary. This juxtaposition - from confinement to open pastures, from injured & malnourished to clean, well-fed, and frolicking - provides a cogent testimony of why this world is a better place when we act from unconditional love and care, regardless of species.

We are forced to reexamine the words "compassion" and "sentience," defining whether they apply only to human animals or non-human animals too. Our reexamination also involves the word "dominion," and we must determine if we have strayed from "hold dominion over (as a shepherd, a guide, a watcher)" and moved into "to dominate." Ultimately, I don't think the question starts with "if," rather "how much" - and the still & moving portraits of the monkeys, beagles, pigs, foxes, cows, dolphins in the film show just how much we've let our fellow earthlings down.

Underscored perfectly by music (including one of the most beautiful Radiohead songs to close out the film) and valuable voiceover to match the visual environment, Ghosts is a complete film that brings us an incomplete answer, left up to us to further explore and act upon. Through the questions that arise during the film, though, we can only discover that our answer - to "What will we do with this information/presentation moving forward?" - will spring from our own embodiment of compassion and how strong it is (or if it even exists at all).

animals cages factory farming
Image from www.theghostsinourmachine.com
I'm left with chills, which I already experienced throughout watching, as I wipe the tears from my eyes. We are at a precipice in human existence, a crossroads where we must realize that human rights and animals rights are in partnership with one another - and to ignore or abolish one is to negatively impact the other. As we are exposed to the work and education of heroic journeymen & journeywomen like Jo-Anne McArthur and Liz Marshall, we must know that we have the choice: to contribute to and support the problem or be part of the solution. Like an actively moving museum and story all bundled into one, The Ghosts in Our Machine is an essential experience for everyone, an opportunity to connect or reconnect with our inherent compassion and help save the world.

This film is not just for us. This is for those who cannot speak on their own behalf (beyond the squeals and screams, the howls and bellows). This is for those who are trapped within a tragic, unnatural system (beyond the liberations and occasional escapes and runs to freedom). This is for those whose lives are taken without a second thought, for selfish gain (beyond the few who have a safe, warm home and sit by our side).
for the ghosts
This is For The Ghosts.
__________

"I truly believe that it's innate that we're all compassionate and that if we're given the opportunity to care, we will." ~ Jo-Anne McArthur
__________


The Ghosts in Our Machine is currently running its U.S. Oscar Qualifying Campaign after releasing in Canada. You can see the film this month and in December in New York City (through Nov. 21st), Los Angeles (Nov. 15th-21st), 
San Francisco, Chicago, and Columbus (further cities TBD). For screening dates/times, ticket information, and more about the film, please visit


NOTE: There is nothing graphic about this film, specifically in what is deemed graphic (blood, death, etc.). What could be considered graphic in another way is the sheer neglect, disconnection, and abuse that's present within all animal industries, obviously expressed through the featured animals.

Kissing 101 Review

I decided to write this Kissing 101 review after having the opportunity to hear all six parts of the audio course. If you're lacking a little something special with your partner, or if you're looking to woo a potential significant other, you'll find this brief review of particular interest. Do you have a reputation for being a less than stellar kisser? Do you think you're an okay kisser, but you'd like to take your game to the next level? Are you a fantastic kisser, but are always open to new ideas? If any of these things are true, have I got a secret for you: Kissing 101.Kissing 101: Your Complete Guide to Kissing Tips and Techniques is an audio course that will walk you through the process of becoming an amazing kisser. It is something that can work regardless of whether or not you have someone to practice kissing on. In perfect detail, you'll learn all of the methods you need to practice with or without a partner. The course also comes with a book, complete with full color photos and illustrations!

Kissing 101 will help you to master the art of the French kiss, discover what it takes to kiss someone for the first time and eliminate the nerves that keep you from making the first move you so desperately want made. Even if you discover that the person doesn't want to kiss you back, Kissing 101 will teach you what to do. You'll even find out the little secrets that can morph you from an average kisser into an amazing one.

I highly recommend Kissing 101 to anyone who is looking to expand their kissing horizons. Anything that can teach you how to make someone want to kiss you is okay in my book!

KMIV's Children's Review of Ruby Roth's "V is for Vegan: The ABCs of Being Kind"

We had the lovely opportunity of interviewing Ruby Roth back in August 2010 for our KMIV Interview Series (after you're done reading this, you can go back and read the interview here) about her & her first book That's Why We Don't Eat Animals, which had been out for a little over a year. Since then, Ruby has penned/inked/drawn two more! Vegan is Love and this post's feature: V is for Vegan: The ABCs of Being Kind.  This latest children's book dives into the basics of veganism, food, compassion, & environmental responsibility with the alphabet.

"A is for animals - friends, not food. We don't eat our friends, they'd find it quite rude."

Moving through the alphabet - "D is for dairy. Moo! Milk is for cows," "R is for rescue / from shelters, not stores," "Y is for you because your choices matter," and, my favorite, "E is for eggs -- from a chicken's butt?! Wow." -  Ruby picks out the best words to educate, entertain, express positivity and joy, and provide a truthful connection for our youthful readers. Alongside her beautiful, vivid, and engaging illustrations, Ruby introduces us to the plant-based food groups, presents animals in different environments and situations, and sheds light on positive & responsible steps we all can take to spread compassion around.

As an adult who's worked with children for over a decade, I found this book mixed humor, creativity, and critical thinking perfectly in its alphabetical education package.  While intended for three to seven olds, the book is definitely still fun & informative for you too. (Definitely me too!) With so much talent and sensitivity for presenting "adult" topics to children in an easy-to-understand manner, Ruby brings the heart of what it means to live healthfully and with unconditional love to families in the most colorful way. 

Don't take my word for it! Here's a review from two young readers!





And here's the book trailer video for further fun watching:





For more information about Ruby, her books & art, and activism for a new generation,